Don't forget to have fun: a free book for families

What kids hear when parents cheer

Don’t Forget to Have Fun! What Kids Hear When Parents Cheer is a beautifully illustrated children's book that explores the emotional impact of parental behaviour in youth sports. It has been written for parents and children to read together and is based on years of research on the topic of parent involvement in youth sports. The story ends with questions to help families talk about how to support children.

The core idea behind the book was to create a conversation between parents and their children about sport, from dreams and goals to expectations and support.

It has been written by Professor Camilla Knight and Dr Kurtis Pankow, and illustrated by Amy Gallagher.

What is the book about?

David and Emily are excited about their match day. They love sports because it brings joy, challenges, and time with friends. However, overhearing their parents complain about other parents makes them feel uneasy.

At the match, they notice their friend's Dylan’s mum telling him he must be the star because of the money spent on his training. Dylan becomes quiet and anxious, no longer wanting to take part.

Despite Dylan’s reluctance, David and Emily try to support him, encouraging him during the game and helping him feel included. They play hard and win, hoping to lift Dylan’s spirits. But Dylan remains sad, knowing his mum will still criticize him on the way home.

After the match, David and Emily thank their dad for cheering positively instead of yelling. Their dad reflects on how parents sometimes forget what children actually hear and feel, and promises to keep cheering and maybe even talk to Dylan’s mum.

Themes and messages

• Positive parenting in sport: encouragement and support matter more than pressure and criticism.
• Children’s emotions: children are deeply affected by what parents say and how they behave during games.
• Empathy and friendship: David and Emily show kindness and understanding toward Dylan.