Information for parents

Last updated: 23 Apr 2025
Getting involved

Getting involved in your child’s sport or activity

Parents and carers play a big role in encouraging children to take part in sport or physical activity, which is important if we want our children to live healthy and active lifestyles.

This can look different for many parents. It could mean washing kits, being their personal cheerleader or team taxi driver. But it also means making sure their sport is a safe place for them to thrive and enjoy.

Being part of the sport community

Being part of an open and inclusive sport community that focuses on what’s best for all children can help safeguard in sport, as well as provide an enjoyable and positive experience for your child. For parents and carers, this open relationship with sports clubs and activity providers can enable more conversations about safeguarding and positive behaviour.

Having an understanding and interest in your child’s sports club or activity will help to create a space where your child feels able to share their experiences with you. Good or bad. This can help you:

  • be part of the team
  • build good relationships with the club, the coaches, staff, volunteers and players
  • support your child and their friends
  • understand the possible challenges and risks in the sport
  • raise helpful suggestions about how to improve things, as well as voicing any concerns you or your child may have

Download our information sheet, How can you get involved in your child's sports club?, which gives useful tips on supporting and encouraging your child in their sporting life.

Being supportive

Supporting your child in their sporting life

Knowing how to best support your child can be difficult, especially during emotional times like matches, performances, competitions or selection stages.

This video features interviews with parents and children talking about their sporting lives.

How to support your child emotionally and practically in sport

  • listen to your child about their experiences in their sport or activity
  • talk openly about how they feel and what support they need
  • reassure them that however they feel, it is ok to feel how they do
  • let your child know you’re proud of them for many different reasons and tell them
  • encourage from the sidelines
  • help your child to prepare for matches, competition's, training or games by - cleaning kits and boots, prepped bags, clothing, equipment, food and drinks
  • ensure your child arrives on time and is collected on time by an approved adult that is known to the sport club or activity, and has permission to do so
  • get to know sports staff so you can build confidence in them to help your child develop
  • respect the officials’ and referees’ decisions and treat them with respect
  • respect all players and other spectators
  • report any negative behaviour from any adult or child
  • raise any concerns or worries

We’ve also developed a factsheet on Negotiating the post-game conversation. This offers some helpful guidance on when, where and how to have these conversations.

How to spot abuse

Child abuse is any form of physical, emotional or sexual mistreatment or lack of care that leads to injury or harm. 

Knowing when something is wrong

It’s vital that all parents and carers can spot signs of harmful behaviour or abuse inside and outside of sport settings. Here are some typical signs to look out for in your child or others:

  • unexplained changes in behaviour
  • a change in the way they talk about their sport, coach, a member of staff, peer or any other individual
  • anxiety about attending practice or taking part in a sport or activity they once enjoyed
  • mention of negative things they’ve seen or heard happen to others
  • changes in diet or appetite
  • sudden concerns about their weight or appearance
  • frequent communication, either online or in person, with a coach or other member of staff outside of the sports setting that isn’t about practices or competition planning
  • unexplained gifts or favours from coaches or other staff members
  • increased levels of stress or pressure to achieve or perform well

Abuse in a sport setting

Our guidance gives examples of how types of abuse might occur, including neglect, physical abuse, sexual abuse, emotional abuse, poor practice, bullying, domestic abuse and non-recent abuse.

What to do if you have worries

If you have any concerns, worries or doubts, firstly don't panic. The NSPCC website provides a range of information on how to respond and report your worries.

Don't wait until you are certain, talk to the NSPCC Helpline as soon as possible. 

Speaking out in sport

Speaking out in sport

Your child might come to you with a concern or worry. It’s important for you to address these concerns and raise this with the right people.

This video looks at what parents can do to help keep their child safe and who they can turn to for help if something is wrong. We hear Ellie's story, a young athlete who has a negative experience and whose parents aren't sure how to support her.

If you have any worries or doubts about your child, another child or anyone else involved in your child’s chosen sport, it's essential that you raise this and talk to someone. There are some helpful things to consider:

Listen

  • Listen to your child about their worries or concerns.
  • Let them express how they feel freely and with an open mind.

Report

  • Every club or activity should have policies and procedures in place to ensure children are safe in their care, as well as for dealing with concerns (you can request to see these at any time).
  • If you’re unsure who to speak to, the NSPCC helpline can support you and advise you on what to do next - call 0808 800 5000

Support

  • Speak to the club or activities’ child protection, safeguarding or welfare officer to discuss your concern, ask what happens next, and how your child and you will be supported going forward.
  • Let your child know that you’ve acted on what they’ve told you, and that they can come back to you again if they need to.

If you think a child is in immediate danger of abuse, contact the police on 999.

The idea of speaking out about abuse, a worry or concern can be daunting, but by taking action, you'll be safeguarding the child concerned as well as helping to prevent others being harmed or put at risk.

Parents and carers of elite athletes

Throughout the career of a young person on the talent pathway, parents and carers who are positively involved play a key role in their health and wellbeing as well as their overall success.  

Parents of young athletes

We all know how challenging it can be for families to balance childhood and the high-competition environment that young athletes face. The key to parents and carers supporting children and young people who are performing at high sporting levels, include, but is not limited to:

  • Putting the child first - always
  • Positive parent behaviours
  • Clear and open communication with the club
  • Checking safeguards at the club
  • Conflict management with coaches
  • Care of their child
  • Finance management

Putting the child first in sport

Parents and carers should always put the wants and needs of their child over any of their sporting commitments.

Regularly having conversations with your child about how they are feeling can help them to know that you are there to listen to any concerns they may have. Being mindful with feedback can also help your child feel well supported. Remember - it's their sport.  

If you are worried that your child is being abused or at risk during their involvement in sports, it is vital that you talk to someone. Take a look at our Speaking out in sport pages for advice.

Positive parent behaviours in sport

Our annual Keeping Your Child Safe in Sport campaign provides lots of useful information about how to display positive behaviour as a sport parent, even during tough times before, during and after sport. Young athletes are still children so, therefore, helping them to feel supported and to feel safe to raise concerns  is a vital part of being a positive sport parent.

Clear and open communication with sports clubs

Coaches, parents and carers should always communicate effectively and ensure they are working together to support young people

Coaches, parents and carers need to talk together to understand and support the needs of the young person. For example, if the coach is discussing recovery ideas with a young person, the parent or carer should be involved in the conversation too, so that everyone involved in looking after the child is aware of what they should be doing and why.  

Checking that safeguards are in place

You should ensure that the appropriate safeguards are in place to protect your child. You can do this by asking about your club's safeguarding arrangements. 

Download our poster, which covers the 5 key questions that parents should feel confident about asking their child’s sports club

Conflict management with coaches

There may be occasions when a parent or carer disagrees with a decision that a coach has made; for example, their child may not have been selected for a team or competition. However, unless there is a genuine concern that the decision has been made on the basis of inappropriate bias or misconduct, your focus should be on supporting your child.

Parents and carers should avoid conflict with the coach, and ask coaches for clarification about decisions, calmly, and away from any young people. Some outcomes and decisions are disappointing and tough, but it's important to put your own feelings aside and focus on how you and the coach can both support the young person in their enjoyment and success.

A young person may feel more upset if they see their parents reacting negatively to the decisions made, and they may think that their parent or carer is making things worse.  

Parents and carers should listen to their child and support them in their feelings towards the decision. Where possible, you should encourage your young athlete to see that they are on their own continual journey of improvement, and there will be future opportunities for progression. 

Maintaining positive parent-coach relationships can help young people to succeed in and enjoy sport.

Care of your child

Parents and carers should ensure that they are always aware at what times they are responsible for looking after their child at events, competitions and training.

You should communicate with care providers, including coaches, event organisers and chaperones to ensure you know drop-off and pick-up details, and who is responsible for your child during times when they are not participating in their sport.

Managing finances

Funding a young person through elite and high-performance sport can be a huge financial cost for parents and carers. However, young people should not be made to feel that they themselves are becoming a financial burden.

Healthy communication about the financial side of their involvement in elite and high-performance sport could assist a young person's financial learning. By openly communicating in a positive way, a parent or carer can help the young person to understand money management.

There may be opportunities to earn or be given funding within high-performance sport. This could be through being awarded a grant, winning a bid or being approached with sponsorship deals.

Parents and carers should work with coaches and sports professionals to understand what funding opportunities may be available, and how to apply for and secure appropriate funding.

Parents and carers should also ensure that any scholarships or sponsorship deals that have been offered to the young person are legitimate, and are appropriate for the young person. Make sure that the young person isn’t being tied into a contract that requires them to do anything that they can’t, or don’t want to, commit to.

Safeguards in place

What should be in place at your child’s club or activity

Any good club or activity provider should have certain things in place to make sure that they’re taking care of children and young people. This applies during sessions, practices, on any away trips and when competing at competitions.

You should feel confident asking a club or activity provider about all of the areas that we’ve set out below. Remember, you have a right to know these things and any well run club will be happy to let you know what safeguarding policies and procedures they have in place.

  1. Safeguarding Policy
  2. Welfare or safeguarding lead
  3. Codes of conduct
  4. Safe recruitment
  5. Staff training
  6. Consent

Safeguarding policy

Clubs and activity providers should have a safeguarding policy or a National Governing Body policy that they follow. This policy outlines their commitment to protecting children and young people, as well as showing a clear procedure for dealing with all concerns. You should be able to see a copy of this policy.

Our sample safeguarding policy statement shows how a sports organisation, club or activity providers should ensure children and young people are kept safe during sport and physical activity sessions.

Welfare or safeguarding lead

Every club or organisation should have either a welfare or safeguarding lead who you can contact if you have a worry or a concern. You should have been given this person’s contact details on registration at the club. If not, their details should be available from any coach or be displayed on the club or activities website or in their venue.

Codes of conduct for staff, children and parents

There should be written code of conduct or behaviour showing what is required of staff, volunteers, participants, parents and carers. These codes should promote positive behaviour from all involved in your child's sport or physical activity journey. They should also highlight the consequences of poor behaviour and how this will be addressed if the codes are not upheld.

Safe ways of recruiting staff, including criminal records checks

All staff and volunteers should be subject to something called 'safer recruitment processes', which means that they’ve been interviewed, the organisation has seen references, and Disclosure and Barring Service (DBS) or criminal records checks for working with children and young people have been carried out where applicable.

Please note: The DBS service provides checks for England and Wales, in Scotland it is Protection Vulnerable Groups (PVG), in Northern Ireland it is AccessNI and in the Republic of Ireland it is the National Vetting Bureau (NVB)

Safeguarding training for staff

Anyone working with children and young people should have received some level of safeguarding training. The level of safeguarding training required depends on the type of role they have and the frequency of involvement they have with children and young people. We have information for coaches, clubs and other organisations on what types of training are available.

You should be able to ask any member of staff or volunteer what safeguarding training they have received and they should be able to confidently tell you. If not, raise it with the manager of the organisation. 

Consent

We advise that any child under the age of 18 requires parental consent to join a club or activity. Part of giving your consent means you’re aware of the kind of club or activity you’re sending your child to and that you’re comfortable letting them attend.

If your child is between the age of 16-18 and is competent enough to give their own consent to attending the club and their own medical treatment, photo consents and so on, then this is sufficient. We would recommend you talk with your young person about what they have consented to and what safeguarding paperwork they have seen. 

Resources

Here we provide leaflets and videos to give you more information, as well as links to organisations for further help.

Services that can help support you and your child

  • NSPCC – safeguarding advice, guidance and resources for parents and families
  • Childline – support and information for your child on a range of different topics from managing emotions to staying safe online
  • Anti-Bullying Alliance – an anti-bullying charity with advice and tools for parents
  • Gendered Intelligence – support for trans young people and their parents
  • UK Anti-Doping – support for parents with children on the talent pathway regarding clean sport

Further information and resources for parents

Here are some resources you might find helpful when it comes to supporting your child in sport, and which you might want to share with other parents.

Videos for parents

These videos, created by the CPSU, highlight the positive role you can play as a parent to support your child in their chosen sport.

My No.1 Fan - Positive parental involvement in sport

This video interviews parents and children about their sporting lives and involvement. It highlights the impact of both positive and negative parental involvement and side-line behaviour. 

 

Messages for parents of young athletes

The key for being involved in your child’s sport and to help them enjoy participating and achieve success is simply this – talk to your child.

 

More videos

You can find more videos on our YouTube playlist of videos for sports parents.